I haven’t had a hospital visit or any kind of set back now in over a year *knocks on wood* but I want to make this entry anyway because it’s true for anyone really.
I am a strong believer that your approach to changes in your life, no matter if positive or negative, is incredibly important as to how you end up living your life.
My Motto is, if you are confronted with a new negative situation you are left with two choices: Adapt to it and/or if you can, change it.
It doesn’t matter why you ended up in this particular situation, if it was an outcome of your own decisions or if it just happened without you influencing anything. You are in a situation you don’t like RIGHT NOW and you have to decide what to do.
The worst thing you can do is pity yourself and complain without really doing anything. You will spend Energy and Focus on something that won’t change or help you in any way. I know that this is easier said then done and sometimes it just feels great to to get it out. However you will be back to the exact same feeling very soon and this cycle will go on and on and on. It may even lead to you feeling much more down and depressed in the end.
My family, friends and specially my boyfriend Henning have been a great backbone for me when I needed it the most and they were the main reason I was able to adapt very quickly to the new situation and also accept it.
There are obviously situations which you might not be actively able to change for all different kind of reasons. In this case it’s important to get to terms with it and make the decision once and for all to just “deal with it!” The sooner you are adopting to a new situation the sooner you will be able to at least try to improve it. The sooner you stop thinking about why the situation happened and why it might be unfair, the sooner you have the energy to enjoy the positive aspects that are still there and focus on what you can improve. If all else fails, it helps to remember that there is most likely someone who has it way worse then you do and that the worse you feel right now the less likely it can get worse. After all there IS sunshine after every lightning storm. It’s just a law of nature.
On a different note: Dealing with hospital food? Completely different topic!
Hi Tascha.
Nice to see someone turning Ms diagnosis into something positive.
I dont know how long its been since you found out you had Ms, or if you have others in the same situation to talk to – but In my guild we have a guy whos had Ms for 4 years now and is back in “life” after a depression due to the diagnosis, and one of my Wifes best friends got the diagnosis 6 months ago.
Feel free to mail me if you find it interesting to talk to any of those friends , and besides that i wish you the best.
Best regards,
William / Frank sinatra
I was diagnosed 3 years ago with relapsing MS down here in Greece, which was a bit of a tough situation. Recently when I talk to other MS patients it’s most of the time to encourage them, so maybe any of your friends mentioned would find the blog interesting. I would certainly be very happy if it would be helpful to someone else.
Thanks for the offer though and the feedback 🙂
As I have already said to you, you are a true inspiration to all MS sufferers. As for hospital food.. Dont get me started lol. UK hospital food sucks. 😉
wishing you the very best
Wendy~